TIMELESS HEALING

Are you a person that often feel that every relationship you get into fail, and you often feel that it’s your fault? Do you feel powerless in your relationships or that the world is on your shoulders, without you everything would fall apart? 

Codependency is common when growing up in dysfunctional families, or may form when living with a toxic person for a long time. 

I can help you in a holistic way to heal your codependency and develop healthier relationships with self and others, including your children.

There is a lot of help out there for those with distinct mental health conditions and addictions. But who is helping their families? 

If you are a relative/spouse/parent/ex-partner/adult child, then I would love to be of assistance.

Often, you feel powerless when being closed to a person with addictions. Relatives are often well-meaning and push hard for their loved one to receive help. But sometimes it can go the opposite way. Eventually, they lose their autonomy, which leads into this spiral of disengagement on their behalf and increased control, resentment and worry from their loved ones. It creates this push-pull dynamic that is not healthy for anyone involved. 

As a coach and healer, I come from a different angle. People pleasing is also a form of addictive behavior, so when we start helping you, the “empath”, the ripple effect of your healing and increased understanding, may in turn also help your loved one.

Addiction affects the whole family. Often your trauma may come from growing up in a dysfunctional or neurodiverse home. Or you might need help dealing with a person with addictive behaviors, alcoholism, or narcissistic traits.

I help you recover from a dysfunctional situation in a parent, friend, adult child, spouse or ex-partner.

My holistic approach focus on mindfulness and healing: we use a combination of healing methods to help you in your recovery from your emotional trauma/codependency.

I can also assist with dependency and addictive behaviors such as food cravings, excessive exercise, workaholism, co-dependency/people pleasing, phone and internet addiction. Please note that I do not specialize in treating sex/porn addiction, heavy alcohol/drug addiction, or gambling.

I’m doing my best to refrain from the term “Narcissist”, unless the person has received a NPD diagnosis. 

I may refer to “narcissistic tendencies” or “narcissistic traits”, though the word “Narcissist” is heavily thrown around today. 

Narcissism is a human defense mechanism, based in feelings of shame and guilt. Behaviors such as manipulation, gaslighting, verbal abuse, blame shifting, and so on, are coping mechanisms developed either from growing up in a dysfunctional home, where these behaviors where learned. Narcissistic tendencies can also develop where the person may have gaps in their cognitive functions, such as communication, emotional regulation, memory, executive functions, information processing, and more. When these individuals lived a lifetime without supports in these areas, they can develop a deep feeling of shame and failure to function at the capacity of other people, which leads to development of narcissistic mechanisms to cope with the world.

Anyone can develop dependency or addictions to substances and high-dopamine releasing activities.

Some people are pre-disposed to a higher risk of developing addictions. ADHD, Autism, Bipolar Disorder, trauma and other mental health conditions, affect our brain chemistry, which involves our neurotransmitters Dopamine, Serotonin and Noradrenaline. If we are naturally low in these chemicals, we are more likely to develop addictive behaviors, if going untreated.

This is a reason why there is a strong pull to get an early diagnosis, to hopefully help these individuals understand and accept themselves, but also to assist medically where needed, to avoid self medicating.